Start with the first step. Proceed.
- Make a new friend.
- Spend time together.
- Be your true self, especially when it’s difficult.
- Disagree.
- Let them go.
- Figure out how to soothe yourself.
- Welcome them back.
- Willingly fall further into friendship’s gooey centre.
- Copy what you envy.
- Forget who’s who.
- Draw a line.
- Notice recurring border skirmishes.
- Learn about yourself.
- Draw a different line, one that includes all of you.
- Do your best, even if it’s not enough.
- Take a break.
- Notice what changes.
- Ruthlessly work to take back any unkindness.
- Hold your friend’s hands until they’re warm again.
- Decide to love yourself best by forgiving, even if you’re not sure how.
- Remember all the good things. (There were lots.)
- Accrue private jokes.
- Count up the years.
- Catalogue the stories and talk about them in code.
- Accept the whole friend, including what bugs you about them.
- Realize that you wouldn’t be you without your friend.
- Praise the change you got from them.
- Praise the change you resisted.
- Get to know your friend’s friends.
- Make a new friend.
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Flickr photo: Old friends, by kevindooley